The Quiet Club

There's a really large club out there that has no membership roles nor meetings. It has no club motto, nor does it have by-laws. Its only dues are paid in tears and heartache. It's a club with lots of members, and not a one of them asked to be in the club.

It's the club of parents who have dealt with the pain of miscarriage. And, inside the club, there is a unique sorority of women who carried those babies.

Jmk and I regret so much to have to say that we are now members of that life-altering club.

For reasons that we don't need to know, our baby left us very early in its life. I began serious spotting Tuesday night, and as it was still ongoing Wednesday morning, we went to the OB's office. They tried to find a heartbeat, but there was none. The baby was measuring about 8Weeks and 3days, which means that he left around Thursday of last week, at best guess. The doctor says it isn't as common after having had such a strong heartbeat already, but that it's likely due to a chromosomal issue that simply caused a cessation of organ development.

I was scheduled for a D&C surgery this Friday morning - but it appears that I have begun the process of a natural miscarriage already. So, after discussing it all with the OB's office, as of right now, the surgery is off. It will likely make for a long weekend, but being able to avoid the surgery is actually a good thing. We would still really appreciate your prayers for Jmk and myself - for healing and comfort.

As we have heard from the pulpit, God does not give us trials to test us, because He does not need to do that. He already knows what we are capable of. However, the trials in our life can serve to show US the lessons we need to learn, whatever they may be. We don't need to know the reasons for any of this. And it may be years before we can look back and see a purpose behind the trial. But we know that God is in control, and His will is perfect. We need not question when we are following Jesus Christ.

So many who I have talked with have shared their own similar experiences - some I knew about, some I didn't. It is seemingly so common for this to happen. While that doesn't change the hurt involved, it does bring a sense of life-goes-on to the whole situation. And, being home with little children is also a great boost and distraction - they keep my focus on the miracles that we have already been given.

Thank you all for your prayers. I am sure those prayers are what are keeping us together right now.